Apologies for being so quiet! Work has been mental and I’ve started a degree module on research. It’s the first time I’ve studied since having little C and am finding it rather a challenge!! I have to critique 4 research articles now if I had to critique 4 Julia Donaldson books I think I’d be finding it a lot easier as that’s all I’ve been reading for the last 3 years
Little C has always been a vocal child (don’t know who he gets it from!) and we didn’t have any issues until about 8 months ago when out of the blue he started to stutter. I remember the day well. We had caught the train to exeter shopping. On the way home the train became very busy and Little C had to sit on my knee. He was not best pleased to say the least and then started to stutter and struggle to say his words. I assumed that it was because he was tired and figured it’d resolve itself. After a few months it was still there so I tripped off down to see the GP. He was quite dismissive about it really and reassured me that it’ll be a phase and will pass. 8 months on it’s still present and if anything getting slightly worse.
Still reassured by the GPs wise words I tried not to worry and carried on as usual. It’s not the lack of vocabulary, Little C knows lots of words and can string together sentences of 7 or more. It’s just seems to be the first letter/sound of some words. It’s not always the same words and not always at the beginning of a sentence. It’s worse when he is tired, excited and nervous.
Weirdly other children of varied ages we have come across don’t seem to notice the stuttering, or if they do they certainly haven’t mentioned it. Adults on the other hand can’t seem to help pointing it out. We had an incident at swimming the other day. Little C has started going in the pool on his own with the instructors, he is very excited when he comes out and wants to tell me what he has done. Sometimes it can take a while for him to say m m m m mama so I was patiently waiting for him to finish when someone said “oh B B B B B B B B”. I know that the person probably did it jokingly but it’s not funny.
I was raging!! Angry, upset and disappointed that it was an adult who had joked. That a grown woman thought it was ok to make fun of a well mannered and incredibly caring 3 year old. But I let it go as Little C was unaware of the meaning of the remark he just innocently smiled at her as thought she was funny. Mark my words if she does it again this week I will take her to one side and verbally rip her to shreds!
In my internal raging state I decided to pop down to see the health visitors as after all that’s what they’re there for right?? Still angry but rapidly becoming upset I was ushered into a room by one person then ordered out by another who claimed she had booked it out and I couldn’t just sit where I liked. I was then sat in an extremely small and hot room, later approached by the first women who exclaimed “oh you’ve moved sweetie!” She then handed me a bit of paper with a stammering website on it and informed me that I could self refer to a speech and language therapist if I wanted but she didn’t know how and the waiting lists are lengthy so it’s up to me if I bother! Angry, upset and now extremely irritated I politely told them where to shove their help and left in a worse state than when I went in.
Whilst trying to park at Little Cs gymnastics club and reversing into the car behind me I saw Exeter speech and language therapy department!! Now they said you could self refer so I just popped in. They were really nice and helpful, handed me a referral form and gave me a few pointers to aid the form filling. RESULT hope we can get this sorted out soon
And breath………… Oh and maybe invest in parking sensors!!
I was very lucky whilst on maternity leave to meet someone who has now become a very good friend to me and we meet regularly. We’ve shared every aspect of raising a child the good the really good and the harder sleep deprived times. What’s been really nice is that it’s been shared in a supportive way not a competitive one genuinely pleased for each other’s mummy milestones which is invaluable when you’re a first time mum who’s not really sure if what you’re doing is ‘right’ or not!
So yesterday we popped over to visit E and Little Z and we were lucky that although it was breezy the sun mostly shone. The boys played in the play house and we ate although it was healthy food rather than cake. I love and miss cake I’m not going to lie but I don’t miss the 2 stone I’ve lost since not eating
as much cake!
Little C isn’t a massive doggy fan, probably because we don’t have one but E has 2 rather large dogs I think they’re lurchers. In the early days Little C would point blank refuse to be in the same room as them but we’ve made a real breakthrough and he actually stroked one and held it’s lead!
We went on a lovely walk. Devon has some beautiful countryside. Little C and Z ran through long grass and found a stream to play pooh sticks in. I felt truly blessed yesterday.
Keeping Little C safe has always been top of my priority. Now my quest to keep him safe is because he is just so clumsy and is destined to lose his front teeth as he just doesn’t put his hands out when he falls (bless him!).
When he was Tiny we had a baby monitor with a sensor pad. I always plaster him in sun cream and make sure he wears a hat. I’ve taught him to always walk on pavements and never to go on a road without an adults hand. The list of safety missions goes on…… So you can imagine my horror when I weigh him and he is near the weight limit of his car seat! Firstly my heart sank because money is really tight at the moment (house roof is falling off and the clutch in our car has to be replaced) and car seats (& roofs!) are just so expensive.
To bring Little C home from hospital we used the maxi cosi cabriofixwith the isofix base this was because the car seat was compatible with our pram and the seat had good safety reviews in crash test data. We were very happy with the seat and Little C was always comfortable and happy to be in it in the car.
He transferred from his stage 1 seat to a forward facing stage 2 seat at about 8 months old. The transfer wasn’t due to his weight but to his length, he had become too tall for the seat to be safe.
We chose the Britax Duo Plus as our stage 2 car seat. At the time it again had the all important isofix connections (the seat is anchored directly to the cars chassis rather than held in please with the seat belt) and good crash test data. He has been very happy in this seat, he has never moaned about going in the car and now climbs in himself. The weight limit on this seat is 18kg and Little C is just about there.
So my quest to find a replacement seat began! Little did I know just how difficult it was going to be. I was quite keen to keep Little C in a 5 point safety harness as he is only just 3 and I felt he still needed the level of support this provided him with especially when he drops off to sleep. Currently in the UK there isn’t a group 3 car seat readily available that has a five point safety harness that can be used over 18kg. We looked at lots that claimed to be from 9-36kg but from 18kg they are to be used without the integral harness as a high backed booster seat. This is because when car seats are tested they are done so with an 18kg load. Any weight above this hasn’t been tested for safety and as a result the seat could fail in an accident.
Ok hand me the paper bag as I’m hyperventilating at the thought of my just 3 year old son using an adult seat belt!!!! The thought absolutely horrifies me. In my eyes he isn’t mature enough to be in this kind of restraint. But I have no choice other than paying £599 for a special needs seat there is nothing I can do.
I have scoured every car seat manufacturers website there is and I’ll be honest what I now don’t know about car seats probably isn’t worth knowing lol. I ended up back at mothercare as we were able to try Little C in the car seats to see how supportive and comfortable they were. I’m so pleased we did this as I had a few seats in mind. Firstly the Britax Evolva 1-2-3 from what I can gather this is quite a good car seat with the 5 point harness and an ok seat used as a high back booster but Little C just didn’t look comfortable and I think if he fell to sleep he would definitely flop forwards. We tried a few more seats but they all posed similar issues. We then tried Cybex Solution Q-fix what makes this seat different from the others is the reclining headrest. It tilts the childs head keeping it in a safe position and preventing their heads tipping forward when they sleep. It has isofix fixings, side impact protection and has won several safety awards. It isn’t the cheapest stage 3 car seat on the market but we use our car daily and I like to know Little C is travelling in the safest possible way whilst in a vehicle.
Little C seems happy and very comfortable in it. As a Mama I’m not loving the cream and orange colour scheme. CREAM!! I take it the designers don’t have a chocolate cake loving monster like me lol. The covers are machine washable. There are other colour and fabric combinations available online but are currently all sold out.
The first time Little C was in the seat we had a few issues mainly with his new found freedom and the grumpiness that goes hand in hand with it being dinner time and the mothercare staff having to wake him up to install the seat! All in all a really bad combination. Some food, a penguin seat belt pad and a few sharp words from Mama and he started to cooperate. It was definitely a scary drive home knowing that he was held just by the 3 point safety belt, thank goodness the other half fell asleep otherwise he would of moaned at my 50mph speed on the dual carriageway!
So far since then Little C has been very good in his new big boy car seat. He knows that he has to sit still, mustn’t lean forwards and can’t undo his belt until we say he can.
I was sceptical about the not flopping forward theory but I take all my negativity back as it does what it says on the tin! I’m very happy with this seat and feel confident in its safety specifications but hope we never get to see it in action!
A little while ago we planted sunflowers which Little C loved doing and not being terribly great at gardening I didn’t expect them to do much. But blimey I was wrong!! We are the Alan Titchmarsh of sunflower growing!! Check out these bad boys!!
Little C really enjoys the outdoors and his nursery teacher commented that he had spent over 30 minutes in the school garden looking at a worm through a magnifying glass! I must try and find him one of those bug explorer kits……..actually on second thoughts I’m not sure what scary treasures he’d bring in!!
#FreeGlassesForLife I should really wear my contact lenses as my distant vision leaves a lot to be desired. They irritate me a bit and I’m always running late so choose to brush my teeth instead of inserting them lol. I do however wear my glasses for night driving and just suffer the headaches the rest…
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